Nowhere in the book does Eldredge blame women for the “damaged male psyche” many men suffer. His overall message is that males are intended to find their center in God in submission to him as their true Father and that the “father wound” many men suffer-being emasculated rather than mentored into true, positive manhood by their fathers-can find healing in relationship to God who loves and honors them as men. Nowhere in the book does he promote male domination of women or of other men. However, by no means does Eldredge promote anything approximating machismo or even patriarchy. It cannot be reduced to social conditioning or biology alone (contrary to what I here called “contemporary sociological orthodoxy). It is the way God intended males to be in the world. Eldredge believes there is it is hard wired into males-by God. Having finished the book now, I honestly do not understand what all the fuss was about-unless readers firmly believe there is no such thing (or anything good) about masculinity. It’s the largest bookstore I’ve ever seen!) I decided it was time to read the book for myself and see what all the fuss was about and why so many people ask for my opinion about it. (For those interested who might live near it or find themselves near it at some time-it’s the “mother store” of the chain and is in Dallas, Texas just east of Highway 75 on Northwest Highway-a few miles north of downtown Dallas. (It’s the only book by him I’ve read and I have not listened to any of his podcasts.)Ī few weeks ago I happened to see a used copy of Wild at Heart in the world’s largest Half Price Bookstore. My immediate concern here is with John Eldredge’s message in Wild at Heart. What I mean by that is that opinions seemed largely “locked down.” No amount of discussion or argument will change them. Here I don’t want to repeat all that or go over that territory again it’s been almost run into the ground here (and elsewhere). (That is, not all males suffer from it some do-in which case others often suffer from their acting out based on too much testosterone or their inability to control the impulses testosterone gives them.) (I believe, and this is based also on reading scientific literature that “testosterone poisoning” is real even if not automatic. Both can be and often are very seriously distorted by social conditioning and sin and, at least in the case of males, hormones can distort gender-from what is ideal and intended. As I have explained here before, based on my own life experiences and observations, and informed by Scripture, I believe masculinity and femininity are not reducible to physiology or social conditioning alone. I assume what really provokes those questions is my cautious but increasingly insistent opinion that maleness and femaleness, though equal in value and rights, equally sharing God’s image, are different in more ways than biology and contemporary sociology say. But because here I have frequently talked about the growing social neglect of, if not outright prejudice against, males-especially in education and health-people keep asking for my response to Wild at Heart. So, having no interest in that, I avoided the book. Somehow I formed the opinion that, at least in that book, Eldredge was promoting some kind of Christian form of machismo. I read reviews of it in some Christian magazines and heard that many women’s advocates, both Christian and non-Christian, both male and female, absolutely hated it. I vaguely remember the controversy over Wild at Heart when it was first published. Again, some commenters asked what I thought about Eldredge’s book. They asked because of my interest in the “decline of men” and the “wounded male psyche.” Recently here I interacted with the book Malestrom: Manhood Swept into the Currents of a Changing World (Zondervan, 2015). Over the years of this blog several commenters have asked my opinion about the book Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul (Thomas Nelson, 2001) by John Eldredge.
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